More than any other deficiency, lack of commitment can doom a marriage. Not trying hard enough to communicate, to work through differences, to push back against animosity, indifference or resentment is one of the reasons couples get a divorce, says MSN. That’s where couple counselors can help.
Create a Relaxed Atmosphere
Couples can get emotional when discussing major issues and that doesn’t provide a good atmosphere for clear-headed or sensible conversations. Counselors help create a more relaxed setting by ensuring communication remains on a positive and even keel.
Resolve Conflicts Peacefully
Counselors also teach you how to frame your arguments in a way that doesn’t attack the person but rather the issue. Personal criticisms fan the flames and by learning how to resolve conflicts peacefully, you and your partner can stave off conflicts and improve the quality of your interaction.
Learn Empathy
Counselors help you learn one of the most important skills you need to keep your marriage going: empathy. It’s not easy, and most people lack the maturity necessary to make it possible. But by learning empathy, you can start to see things from your partner’s point of view and understand him/her that much better.
Listen Better
It’s not enough to listen to what your partner has to say. Sometimes, it’s more about listening to what s/he doesn’t say. People often lie or are unable to say what they really want or mean. If you want to save your marriage, learn to listen to what your partner is trying to tell you. Don’t know how? Your counselor can help you improve your communication skills. That includes improving your ability to listen, to be there, to be fully present in the relationship instead of being too busy with work, family, and other problems.
If you want a chance to save your marriage, don’t hesitate to ask a counselor for help.
